Male Logic.... help?

So... this one goes out to the guys.

I don't usually have [such a hard time] understanding guys and how their minds work but.... I'm lost right now.
I've been experiencing new things lately, being single and all and having to 'fend for myself' because I'm not around my friends or in my comfort zone... I've noticed that guys tend to follow certain patterns and I can't understand why.

I heard from a friend of mine that he 'was being taught rules about women' from some older man who gave him the impression that he would have to follow them if he ever wanted to understand women or have adoring him.
They were pretty straightforward and, for the most part, I could agree...

But what I'm getting at is the fact that there are men who teach 'rules' to their proteges that aren't as 'agreeable' - many of them border on degrading.

Rules mentioning derogatory things about women or dismissive and domineering things that men should do to keep 'their woman in line'... it's infuriating to think about, much less be a victim of.

What I'm getting at with this and the question I'm posing to all guys is:
*Why do girls have to try so hard to get to the 'real you', or rather, Why do you feel you have to put on an act instead of just saying what you mean?

~ Some guys will play it cool and not call you for a week, then call you one day and act sweetly towards you, leading you to think they really missed you, only to leave you hanging for another week - or longer.

~ Some guys will only talk to you when they can get you alone and will completely ignore you when they're around their friends...


~ Some guys will play up to you and pursue you then play 'hard to get' and pretend to ignore you if they think they're getting too close and starting to seem like they want it too much.

And the examples go on but I don't need to list them - you're already thinking of your own.
If you have the solution, or even if you don't.... just leave a note. I, personally, am stumped.