Coming Of Age

I've asked this question a few times... and I've never gotten an answer that really satisfied me -- I've never really gotten a real answer, come to think of it.
People brush this off as a question that doesn't deserve attention but I think it's something that's very important!!

Question: Why does our age affect the way we think and behave... and what link is there to our need to 'settle down'?


I don't want to seem hung up on the subject of love... but I have been lately and I also know I'm not the only one. Everywhere you look [or listen] - tv shows, music videos, the internet.... Facebook - the story is the same... people want to find their 'soul mate' and settle down, or have found someone they believe they could spend the rest of their lives with.And still there are others who try to fool the world into thinking they're happy being alone by throwing themselves into the 'single life' and dragging the closest person along for the ride.

And while I could go on and on about that... that's only half my point. It's not just anyone who is acting this way. The majority of these love-crazed individuals just happen to be teenagers or young adults [20+]...
So, my question again --(scroll up, I'm too lazy to type it over, lol).

I've always heard that after a certain age people tend to want to settle down and start a family; that people get their priorities straight and decide that they no longer want 'flings' and passing fancies... they want the real thing.
I've never believed it.

Well.... I didn't.


Until recently....
Hence this blog entry.

Science would suggest that the boost of the hormonal levels in the teenage body could account for the 'new' emotions and change in mindset. But science is wrong about a lot of other things so forgive me if I don't trust that reasoning.

Honestly though; it would make sense if age factored in to the mental shift from fun to fate... it wouldn't make the shift any less surprising or make the emotions seem any less fake and forced from the outside...
But it would be somewhere to put the blame.... and who doesn't like that?

Lost Love...

Why is it this painful?...

I found myself asking that question late one night after receiving some news that proved more destructive than I could have thought. It's almost laughable... the pain that results from news that could be unspeakably good to the person who has effected it or the one whom it affects. Three simple words can make a world of difference in the way you see someone... in this case I'm not referring to "I love you", I actually mean hearing the words "I'm with someone".
Being secure in the fact that I am human and not as unique as the generic shows on TV claim, I think it's safe to assume that I'm not the only one who has tried to brush it off only to have it explode in my face... in short - love blows. Especially when it takes you so long to realize what your true feelings are that you miss out on whatever opportunity you might have been able to have.

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On a side note....... how can you even know if you truly like/love someone? Ignoring all the emotions that will surface as a result of natural attraction... how can you know for sure if your feelings for someone go beyond a crush or 'puppy love'? And whether or not you're sure; is it possible to know when - or even if - the person needs to know how you feel about them...?
Allow me to reiterate - love blows; even more so when it's lost love.


I always thought I wasn't the blogging type but there's nothing like a good rant to get you where you need to be.